This one is for my booked and busy queens!
If you’ve ever heard the saying “Beyonce has the same 24 hours in a day that you do” and thought to yourself, Nah, God MUST have blessed Beyonce’s days with an extra hour or two, you are not alone. We’re all wondering how she does all that queen beeing and still manages to stay snatched on top of it all. It seems like there is always something to get done and not nearly enough time in a day to dedicate even an hour to ourselves. But something that I’ve learned recently and am still trying to grasp is that you cannot pour from an empty cup. An even harder lesson to learn is that the busier you get, the more essential indulging in self care becomes.
Your self-care should include intentional acts that help you preserve or improve your health and overall well-being. And whatever your specific self-care routine includes–whether it’s taking an hour to go to the gym, blocking off 45 minutes to listen to your favorite podcast, mindlessly watching a 30-minute episode of a Netflix series, or even just meditating and focusing on mindful breathing for 15 minutes– it all works to achieve the same end. By making time to care for yourself, you create a stronger, healthier you. Carving out time to tend to your health and wellness regularly will replenish the energy and motivation you need to keep hustling. And with consistent self-care, instead of pouring from an empty cup, you’ll be pouring from an overflowing one.
Not to mention, self-care helps you establish a definitive method of dealing with the stresses of everyday life.You’ll have more control in the way you respond and react to challenging situations. And no matter the amount of obstacles or how far they throw you off course, you’ll always have a way to find your balance again, and even build resilience along the way.
If this isn’t reassuring enough, self-care and its benefits on your health, wellness, and productivity even got the co-sign from Beyonce herself.
In her recent interview with Harpers Bazaar, she explains how her perception of health and self-care have evolved over the years, and how she’s been able to develop a healthier understanding of self-care:
“I think like many women, I have felt the pressure of being the backbone of my family and my company and didn’t realize how much that takes a toll on my mental and physical well-being. I have not always made myself a priority.
In the past, I spent too much time on diets, with the misconception that self-care meant exercising and being overly conscious of my body. My health, the way I feel when I wake up in the morning, my peace of mind, the number of times I smile, what I’m feeding my mind and my body—those are the things that I’ve been focusing on.”
So how do you prioritize self-care so that you can move past just surviving and start thriving? Here are a few ways to make sure you show yourself some love even when it seems like you don’t have the time to:
Stay In Tune With Your Needs
Self-care is often viewed as a time set aside to shower yourself in luxury, when it should really be seen as the necessary things we do to meet our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs. The goal of any self-care activity should be to replenish the essentials you need to keep going and to keep thriving.
Taking account of your actual needs before choosing what you do for self-care can help you avoid doing random activities that may or may not help you feel better. Specify exactly what you need and focus on meeting those needs. This way you’ll be ready to take on whatever comes your way.
Set the Tone
Have you ever bought new workout clothes that fit just right, hugging your curves in all the right places, and found yourself with an immediate urge to hit the gym? This is how easy it is to set the tone for your self-care. Sometimes the smallest physical or mental shift can help you prepare to put the chaos of the day on pause for a bit and focus on yourself.
Set The Boundaries
If you’re anything like the virgo queen, Beyoncé, you run the world with your unmatched work ethic. But without time to restore your energy and focus, you can end up running yourself into the ground, tired and without the drive to complete anything. Working hard to complete tasks–no matter how big or small– feels good because at the end, you can look back at what you’ve accomplished. But giving of yourself to the point of exhaustion or burn out sets us back and makes it hard to accomplish anything at all.
When you begin to set aside time for self-care, you have to stick with it. Even if this means putting your phone on Do Not Disturb for a while, saying no to a few people, or diverting from your plans for the day. Handling yourself with care should be regarded with just as much importance as a deadline you have hanging over your head or a project that you need to complete. Apply the same discipline towards your self-care routine as you do your work.
Even though self-care may help you build up main character energy as you designate specific time to focus on you, self-care doesn’t always have to be extravagant. Breaking down your needs into small tasks throughout the day or week can help you take a lot off of your plate mentally and help you get into rejuvenation mode.
If you need to, treat your self-care goals like you would any other goals. Write them down, make a plan, and check them off. If your self-care becomes just as important to you as your professional duties, it will become easier to prioritize it.
Create Your Own Routine
Remember, your self-care is supposed to work for you. Your routine can be as luxurious as a bubble bath every evening or as simple as blasting your favorite playlist in between meetings. Customize your routine according to your needs and your life. Once you start, little by little, your self-care routine will transform from a few activities, to a habit, and ultimately be incorporated into your life to the point where it’s no longer an option, but a primary concern.
One of the most important things to understand about self-care is that it is a part of your health and well-being. Although some self-care may seem like leisurely pleasure, it encompasses so much more. Especially as you work towards your personal and professional goals. If you aren’t prioritizing your health, it’ll be impossible for you to attain and enjoy wealth.
Photo: Kieana Rochelle Mainor – Unsplash
Kymberly Deane is a writer, content creator, and storyteller based in Brooklyn, New York. Her passion for continual self-improvement and exploring new things has led her to become a health and wellness zealot, with a particular love for sexual health and wellness. She uses her writing to share the gems she discovers throughout her journey.